Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Helen's avatar

Brilliant, Tim. And what Shirley said.

Can I add something else, which has absolutely infuriated me - the comments by multiple people on social media discussions blaming Katie for her own murder, because she was a "bully".

Here's what happened, as you all know:

The male school peer group revenge-porned Katie with topless pictures of her, mocking and shaming her.

A member of that peer group who had seen the pictures approached her thinking she'd be ashamed and powerless and therefore more likely to accept him (!)

Katie responded to this approach from one of her tormentors with insulting words and emojis.

So he killed her.

Who were the "bullies" in this scenario? Retaliation may be ill advised but it's not bullying.

Wasn't the circulation of the picture and the mockery, bullying?

The bar is set so high for girls and women.

Expand full comment
Shirley's avatar

You’ve highlighted the two situations that troubled me most:

1. the creepy presence of the guard, and

2. the way in which the entire family is conscripted to help manage the Dad’s bad mood.

“ the way in which women are forced, as a matter of course, to manage men’s anger, not to mention their ever-present sexual overtures.”

Such an interesting program. So many things to consider.

Expand full comment
18 more comments...

No posts